Different churches?
A very good question Dave, I am very committed to my church and have just been appointed as Missions Co-ordinator which due to the nature of our church is a very big deal, so for me I wont be going anywhere soon, but I also can understand if a woman had a similar commitment, yes it would be hard, who moves if anyone has to move, but it would be best to be serving side by side in the same church.
Hi Dave and Martin!
Could do alternate sundays at each other's churches or go to a morning service at one and an evening service at the another.( I did a double dose of church for many years.) Then you could maintain your friendships at each church. Or you could decide on one church and a bible study group at the other church perhaps.
Denomination is trickier, especially with Catholics or perhaps Greek Orthodox or Jewish. But if you loved the person, you might consider converting. If you were like Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, you may find it harder though. I don't know that being a Catholic as she is, she has found it easy to adjust to Scientology nor has she converted to it, from my knowledge of what's been written in the media.
I think it would be nice if the woman could honour her husband, and support him where he chose to go.
No, not a dumb question at all Dave - an essential one for a couple to work through together - negotiate it according to individual situation.
After all, there is no position within a church that can't be resigned eventually. And while it is nice for a wife to defer to her husband with respect to church..- all things being equal...but they often aren't! - what if the couple are completely compatible in all things, but unlike her partner the wife holds some sort of official position?
A bigger issue than 'where do we worship?' then is the issue of calling ....you usually end up doing things in alignment with that call regardless of location so a new partner needs to have a purpose that is either the same or complimentary to that or it is just not going to work.
Sort that one out, and I suspect the matter of 'where/how/when' do we worship just falls into place. - particularly if you think creatively...as a friend of mine did.
She is a busy pastor in a large church in the south of the state...and her new husband is from the North West Coast. If they can manage to work that one out without either of them having to give up church, then I am sure that the rest of us can!
Ah - forgot to add that one is pentecostal, and the other Salvation Army...just to add another dimension to the mix!
seriously, and you wonder why more men don't post on these boards, I think you might have your answer.
It's probably fair to say that the best relationships rely on each being prepared to compromise if need be, and even to give in if something is very important to the other party. This is give and take. Not an issue of right and wrong, just love. If real love is rosy then so be it. Harmony and peace isn't impossible but God's aim in our love for each other.
This may be seen as a stupid question (although I more or less believe that the only stupid question is the one you don't ask, haha :P) but it's a recent thought of mine that's just occurred to me.
A lot of people on here, when they "meet up" online come from different Christian backgrounds. Some are Evangelical, some Anglican, some Baptist, some Pentecostal etc - although my view is that we're all one in Christ Jesus, because we all believe that Jesus came down to give to us the ultimate gift of grace and mercy, so that we can be reconciled to God (at least, that's what I hope anyway!). However, there's often the situation when we meet someone here who is from the same location yet attends a different church, sometimes even a different denomination.
If say, hypothetically, you meet someone and you like them yet you feel committed to your church and they're committed to theirs, can a relationship then work between the two? Both of you are Christians and actively show it, but let's say for the sake of the hypothetical that both of you feel that you wish to commit to your respective church. Would a relationship actually work?
I have no idea if that's a dumb question or not...probably is, knowing me, haha :P.